Love - An inner REVOLUTION, a deeper connection or an EGO trip?

Love exists in 2 basic forms i.e. loving within and love outside. Either you can love yourself or you can love outside - a person, a thing, etc. Whatever you love in a way is how much you can love yourself because what is within manifests outside. If you cannot love yourself, you cannot love anyone else.

In today's world, the question to ask is whether love exists between 2 people and how pure is the love? You met your girl friend and you fell in love with her; just ask yourself what made you fall in love. If you can express it more accurately in words, chances are its just a outer connection, an ego trip and not really an inner connection. Love just happens without reasoning.

In the West, love is more of a mental connection or physical attraction. Today you connect well with your partner because what you think matches up with her. Tomorrow there can be differences between you and that can lead to the end of a relationship. If you watch this in awareness, this was more of a ego fulfillment than love. You felt good from within that someone also thinks the way you do and your ego was satisfied. Tomorrow the same ego will be hurt when your thoughts don't match up.

In the East, love exists more on a inner level or in some cases just a look-good-to-society kind of relationship. Our conditioning is very much against the concept of divorce so you can drag a relationship long enough than the West.

When you go into a relationship, if it takes time for you to be in love, chances are that you are trying to match up your thoughts and preferences in life and then fixing up your mind if you can be together or not. This "fixed" relationship is bound to be less enjoyable because it is mindful. This habit of the mind to match up preferences and take time to adjust will not work great in the long term that is why i call it "fixed" up relationship and it is bound to become a way to fullfil your ego. Life is dynamic and situations will come which are not thought about; at that time if there are differences, chances are the relationship will start fading. The love that used to fulfil your ego will turn into misery as your ego gets hurt. You will say that I am not loved as before, but the fact is, even before it was never love just a EGO TRIP. If it was love, it would have blossomed your being into a flower.